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Words of Wisdom for Wives

I am reading a book by Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Wife. It is such a cute book, full of wisdomised phrases which supposedly will help us wives to get a more fulfilled and peaceful marriage.  I can’t resist to share …

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” – laura doyle’s mom

“Some people find fault as if it were buried treasure” – francis o’walsh

“In marriage, as in nature, water seeks its own level: we marry men who match us” – laura doyle

“You see an awful lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly see a smart woman with a dumb guy” – erica jong

“Try to want what you have, instead of spending your strength trying to get what you want” – abraham l. feinberg

“The only worse thing than a man you can’t control is a man you can” – margo kaufman

“Wisdom is divided into two parts: a) having a great deal to say, and b) not saying it” – anonymous

“I often regret that I have spoken, never that I am silent” – publilius syrus

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world” – mahatma gandhi

“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right” – confusius

“I praise loudly, I blame softly” – catherine II of russia

“The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved” – victor hugo 

“A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him” – brendan francis

“Husbands are awkward things to deal with; even keeping them in hot water will not make them tender’ – mary buckley

“Never go to bed angry. Stay up and fight” – phyllis diller

“To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being love by someone deeply gives you courage” – lao tzu

They are all good, if can be put in practice. 🙂

A Brother’s Journey

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 Another book for the hungry weekend. Richard Pelzer’s A Brother’s Journey: Surviving a Childhood of Abuse. I read it in a hurry, wanting to finish the whole book in one sitting. Otherwise would be something sort of a thriller.

The four children – all boys- were raised by a their alcoholic mother. She was being extremely abusive to certain boys, not all of them. The first boy who became her object is Dave. When he was taken away by social services, Richard became the focus of her rage. He went on describing his emotional feeling and quest from the age of 8 till 15 around 1970s. He felt disappointed at his brother, teachers and neighbours who knew the way his mother treated him and Dave but failed to take any actions.   

The ending of the book is a bit of a disappointment. It leaves me in the dark of how he resolved his feelings and anger of his mother’s abusive acts and how he overcame his hunger for her affection.  

For me, it lacks of ingredients that make great novels a good read,  like introduction, plot and ending. It is more like a descriptive story, how he was beaten and when and how he felt. Maybe I should have read the book written about the same family by his brother, Dave Pelzer, A Child Called It (1995). It might give me better insight.

It does raise an issue whether or not people should stand up to those who abuse their children. Should we just stand aside and watch? Should we do something about it?

The Five People You Meet in Heaven

I finished Mitch Albom’s book last night (trying to distract myself from the sinful thought – food). It is such a strange book, isn’t it. I didn’t get it at all till the fourth person he met. Then the tears kept on coming. I can’t help crying when reading a good book. I even cried on Harry Potter! I know it’s an old book, and I should have read it already. Now I can’t wait to watch the movie.

The whole book is a story of a man named Eddie. The end is apparently the beginning. He led a mundane life, living in the same apartment where he grew up, working on the same job his father inherited him. Until the end of the day.

When he died, he was arranged by God to meet people who had affected his life the most, but never knew so. It helps to resolve the big questions he has during his lifetime. He regretted the way he lived his life. How he never left, never seen anything, never experience anything. But in the end, he was enlightened that he did make a difference in a lot of people’s life in his unique way and they actually appreciated his efforts and contributions.

It reminds us what really matters here on earth, of what our lives are given to us for. Not to chase the worldly obsession of fame and fortune but simple things as living the life, doing the job can mean much more.

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